Posted June 3, 2005
- updated Feb 15, 2010
My name is Jen and I am 23 years old.
My husband Roberto will be 26 in October. We have been
trying to concieve since we got married 2 yrs ago. We
thought, no problem, no more condoms, no more birth
control. We are so young, this will happen automatically!
We started dreaming of baby names, timing my ovualtion,
and after making love, wondering when the baby would
be born etc.
After 6 months with nothing happening,
I went to my OBGYN. Everything on my end was great.
Blood tests, ovulation, no blocked tubes etc. They suggested
we keep trying for the rest of the year and go from
A year and a half into our journey, my
husband finally went for a semen anaylsis. Ill never
forget the day they called me at work and said, "We
need to talk to you both, when can you come in?"
My heart sank. We had a low sperm count with bad morphology.
All I could hear is low sperm count.
Our next step was to for my husband to
see a urologist, we waited 2 hours for the man to just
look at his testicles and to instruct him to start taking
the sperm improvement drug, Proxeed. "Take this
for 4 months, at $130 a month and come see me and we
will go from there."
4 months came and went, and the count
now was even lower! After seeing me starting to tear
up, the doctor proceeded to tell us that in these four
months, we hadn't lost anything. We were infertile and
we should expect this. I wanted to choke him!
We are now waiting to see an actual fertility
doctor to see what options are best for us. I never
thought that at 23, I would be reading about IVF, sperm
injections etc. We are simply heartbroken. We both pray
things will turn out better for us and finally see those
2 lines and be pregnant.
Update from Dec. 9, 2005
I shared my story just after my husband
was diagnosed with a low sperm count and we were waiting
to begin IVF.
On September 4th, we found out that we
were pregnant! Our first cycle was successful and I
am in my 18th week of pregnancy.
Update from Oct. 5, 2006
On May 19th 2006 at 5:54 pm I gave birth
to my lovely son Lorenzo weighing in at 9lbs 2 oz, 21
inches long. He's so handsome I can barely handle it.
After going through IVF,
every single shot, ultrasound and after 7 months of
morning sickness... I am so grateful for his sweet spirit.
To all those trying or going through IVF,
please keep your head up, its so worth
Update from June 17, 2009
I told my story almost 3 yrs ago. After
undergoing IVF at 23, I had my son Lorenzo in May 2006.
Its been a long road trying to give him a sibling and
for me and my husband to complete our family. Being
the oldest of 4 and my husband the middle of 3, we never
wanted our son to be our only child. From my original
IVF cycle we had 2 embryos frozen and attempted to implant
them in April of 2008, sadly the morning of the transfer
they died. With the help of a new doctor at a more affordable
cost, and with the help of our parents, we are almost
ready for retrieval and transfer for my IVF cycle. I
came back to this website to read the stories as I am
going thru all this again - all with the same hope and
joy with becoming pregnant. It never ceases to amaze
me how many woman take the journey with endless needles,
and blood draws all for the same common goal that so
many can just attain and so many do not appreciate as
we see so many unwanted and harmed children in this
world. So for all the ladies out there - add 1 more
person to pray for on your list. I always pray for the
infertile - its a sadness that is ever growing. I look
forward to posting a positive update. Thanks for reading
Update from Feb 15, 2010
My final update. When I found this site
almost 4 yrs ago, It was the only thing I felt I could
relate to. When everyone around you either has children
or gets pregnant without any hesistation.. you feel
defective, at least I did especially at 23 yrs old.
I am almost 28 now and I never thought
I would know the ropes of IVF inside and out. I am so
happy to say that after seeing a new doctor at a more
affordable cost, My IVF cycle in June of 2009 was a
complete sucess. Our twin daughters Isabella Marie and
Sophia Grace are scheduled to arrive via c section (
love those breech babies) February 25th 2010 at 1:00
pm to complete our family, joining our 3 yr old son
Lorenzo and end our fertility struggles. I never thought
we would have 1 child, let alone be blessed with 3.
Its taken me a long time to realize maybe why my road
to motherhood took this route. I used to think it was
a test God was giving me, now I know it was just a different
path that was given to me. It didnt change the fact
that me being a mother was something that I would find
the best joy in all my life. No matter what I went thru,
or how great my husband has been, it was always a fear
that it was my fault. Maybe its because its almost over
as I feel my daughters move all thru my belly with barely
10 days to go, but I know I will always remember ALL
the shots, all the ultrasounds and all the love it took
to get us here.. all of us here .. together as a complete
and happy family.