Posted June 6, 2005
in response to Tanya's story.
Last Updated Oct 28, 2006
I can understand what you may be going through.
My husband and I have been trying to conceive since
2002 and have found out that due to vericolie (varicose
veins of the testes) that my husband has become sterile.
The enlarged veins have cut off his semen supply.
It took about a month to finally talk
about a possible donor and at first it seemed a little
scary, I felt alone and couldn’t get a straight
answer from my husband about if he would want to do
it, but finally we sat down and talked about it and
we know as well as you do that looking into the eyes
of something you carried, experienced, felt all the
pain you could possibly handle that there is no mistake
it is yours. I believe the same will go for your husband.
How could you not love some so precious? Plus he will
be going through it with you.
We have both come to the conclusion that
if we adopted it would be neither one of ours, I wouldn’t
get to experience the joy of motherhood (pregnancy),
so what would be any different than to use a donor?
At least that way you can experience it from the beginning
of its life.
I think my husband decided to do it because
for one he wants to have a child with me, but most of
all he understands how badly I really want this. I think
he is still on edge about it, but wants to make me happy,
and he knows what a joy a baby is because he already
has two girls of his own.
I ordered my first sample yesterday and
it will be arriving on Monday at my doctor’s office,
then Tuesday we go in to have an IUI
done with the donor. I will let you know how it turns
out. Keep your head up! We are never given any obstacles
that we can get around -- sometimes it just takes a
little patience. I have waited 3 years so I am ready.
After a while he got used to the idea and it really
doesn’t seem that bad.
Let me know how it goes and I will update you with
my results of my first IUI with a donor.
I wish you luck and hang in there! Your husband will
Update from June 23, 2005
Well to give you an update about my IUI with a donor,
sad to say it was unsuccessful. I am sure a lot of you
know how it feels, but something in me was just hoping
that this would be my turn.
Now my insurance, which covers a majority of the costs,
has run out and I am finding out that it will cost a
lot more than I expected. Just to let anyone know how
much it might cost if you are thinking about it, it
cost $200.00 for the consultation, $200.00 x 2 for the
ultrasounds that will be done, $240.00 for the procedure,
and for anyone considering a donor sperm it is around
$500.00 for that. (FS - total about $1340)
My current doctor said I needed to wait a cycle since
I have done 3 straight cycles already and the clomid
has thinned out the lining in my uterus, so hopefully
in a couple of months I will be back with a positive
outcome. Still keeping my head up, but as many of you
know, it is so hard sometimes.
Good luck to the rest of you out there, keep your dream
Updated Oct 28, 2006
This is a continuation of my story from June 23, 2005.
It is now October 27, 2006 and I am happy to say I am
6 months pregnant! Last time I wrote I was trying IUI
with a donor, but unfortunately it never worked, so
my spouse and I decided to save for IVF.
Finally in about February of 2006 we had saved enough
to start this new journey.
We found a wonderful and professional IVF doctor about
45 minutes from our home. We went in for the consultation
($200) and discussed our options. My husband had enough
live and moblie sperm for us to do this without an donor,
we were so excited to hear that. The
process coming to find out was way longer than I ever
expected. I had to start on injections in my stomach
in the morning and injections in my butt and leg at
night. Very hard, but it got to be painless after a
while. Then it was followed by more injections to make
me ovulate, totalling 3 months worth of medicine ($3500).
During that time I was monitored by frequent ultrasounds
to make sure that my body was reacting properly to the
medicine. Finally it was time to take out the mature
eggs that have hatched by a extremely long needle. (Don't
worry it isn't so bad.) I showed up to the office and
they brought me into the operation room and was put
to sleep for the entire procedure. When I woke I had
mild cramping (like my period was starting) but it subsided
soon after. After my husband deposited for the embryologist
they took my eggs to be fertilized. 3 days later we
went back in and found out that 4 eggs were 100% perfect
and that because I was young 2 would imputted back in.
($9550) Well we did it and now I am 6 months along and
having a boy. We are so excited.
5 years long awaited and we are so excited. The pregnancy
is going beautifully and it couldn't have been easier
(so far) I wish the best of luck to all of you out there.
I know that it was totally worth the wait. Hope every
one of you out there realize that your time will come
and it will be entirely so special to you that you will
do nothing but cherish it even more. Good luck out there,
and if you are looking for a IVF doctor in the Bay area
I have a reccomendation for you.